Word for dating while married
Each partner is allowed to visit his or her secondary about once a month or when the spouse is out of town.
“I’m in love only with my husband,” the woman in this fourth couple says. But we enjoy playing outside our marriage, usually with people we both know socially, sometimes with people one of us knows from work.” As you may have gathered, these couples do not regard a hall pass or its variants as cheating — so long as one spouse secures the other’s advance consent to be “excused from class.” So is a hall pass a harmless fidelity furlough or a certain ticket to tears?
Loyalty and exclusiveness build the trust and commitment that a relationship needs to endure.
Non-monogamy happens, sure — but to build it into a marriage is way too risky. The former are open to anyone; the latter are open to couples and single women.
(Your own hall pass, of course, is unlikely to feature a million-dollar proposition from Robert Redford.) So consider the potential emotional fallout from getting, or granting, a hall pass of your own: Regardless of what the two of you consent to in advance, you could easily find yourselves unable to handle the emotional wreckage of your own hearts.
That said, I feel honor bound to report that I’ve seen a hall pass or two invoked without catastrophe.
Their rationale seems to be that a lighthearted fling might forestall an actual affair. No matter how casual its immediate lustful attraction, sex often develops into an emotional bond — one that could threaten the original couple.Rather than honoring God with their bodies, they see sex as inconsequential. God gave us intimacy because it’s part of the process by which we become one with another person. When you have a sexual relationship with someone, it creates a powerful, intimate bond. That’s why sex can be so damaging before (and outside of) marriage.What they don’t understand is that God created sex to be consequential. When you break up with that person, part of that person comes with you. That leads to a few concepts I often teach about dating: Date intentionally.But I also think it’s impossible to know how we would react if we agreed to a hall pass — and it actually happened.So, alluring as it is, I have to say “pass” on the hall pass.